Going dutch dating advice
I don’t expect the guy I’m with to pay every time we’re out. I expect to be in a partnership that’s so equal that neither of us mind paying for the other.In my mind, it’s a good marker for how someone feels about me and our relationship. Many people like the idea of splitting a bill, so each person is basically responsible for their side of things.I am one of the most independent people I know—capable of creating a life for myself and supporting that life as well. But then again, I’m also okay with paying the bill. The way I see it, it’s like giving the other person a gift; and what’s better than the gift of free dinner?I enjoy blessing other people’s day far too much not to jump on that opportunity.It's about personal finances, a power struggle between men and women to attain equality, prove we can pay too, but still enjoy being treated, and what's comfortable for us. This is definitely a topic that won't find a complete resolution anytime soon, which is cool, because eternal mysteries are a blast. That way we're both giving up equal amounts of time and money to check things out and see if things will work out and if we want to do it again.
You just don't show up to a date expecting a free meal; you just don't."I think it shouldn't be assumed that he is going to pay.
And then there was going Dutch—to split one’s bill and buck the traditions of chivalry.
I am not naïve enough to think all traditions of chivalry are still hanging around, they’re really not. I do not dislike the idea of splitting the bill because I think I should be treated like a princess constantly, or because of some outdated notion that a man should provide for me.
—where soldiers needed a drink or two to fight in battle.
There was Double Dutch—the popular children’s game—which implied the Dutch language was indiscernible and hard to understand.
(As a bisexual lady, I feel OK about this since I do the asking about as often as I get asked, so it doesn't seem skewed.